Love is not by force,is a popular saying,and it holds true in a case involving a man who opened up a divorce case at the Agege Customary Court in Lagos.
Kasali Raji 64 prayed the court to dissolved his 22-year-old marriage between himself and his wife Toyin 47 over lack of love and irreconcilable differences.
The president of the court, Mrs Patricia Adeyanju, held that the estrange couple go their separate way in the interest of peace.
“In the interest of fairness, justice and impartiality, the court grants the pleas of the petitioner and thereby dissolves the union between the petitioner Kasali and his wife Toyin.
“They shall cease to be regarded as husband and wife and both parties are ordered to go their separate ways without any threat to life or blackmail,’’ Adeyanju said.
Earlier, the couple’s son 22 who happens to be their only child told the court that he was not in support of the dissolution of the union of his parents.
His father Kasali, however, resisted his son’s plea and stood his ground on the matter.
He resolved to carry on with the divorce.
His decision prompted the couple’s son to brake down in tears, an evidence that he was heart broken over his father’s decision.
Kasali had during proceedings on March 27, 2018 told the court that he was sick and tired of his wife’s overbearing attitude and negligence towards family matters.
The petitioner said that he left his matrimonial home in 2017 due to her attitude and that he also realized that he was trapped in the marriage because love was long lost and that he had no feelings for her.
“I stopped having sexual intercourse with my wife over seven years ago.
“I have not been living with her for the past 15 months now,” he said.
Kasali said his wife refused to have another child after the birth of their only son.
“There was a time my wife got pregnant, but she aborted it without my consent; when l challenged her, she told me not to disturb her.
“I prayed the court to dissolve this marriage in the interest of peace,’’ he said.
However his wife who doubles as the respondent denied the allegations levelled against her and had her own side of the story.
Toyin said she was not ready for the divorce. “I still love my husband, I don’t want divorce,’’ she said.
The respondent said her husband was an selfcentered and inconsiderate person, who wanted her to carry another pregnancy nine months after she gave birth to her first child even when he knew about her health ordeal.
“After I gave birth to our only son, nine months later, my husband forcibly had sex with me in spite of my health condition.
“When I discovered l was pregnant, I had to abort it because of my health and our economic situation at that time.
“We couldn’t afford to take good care of our only child or even feed ourselves, not to talk of taking care of another child,’’ she said.
Toyin also stated that for the past one year her husband had stopped eating meals prepared by her and was rarely home.
“He later stopped coming home and only sends money to his son whenever there is a need for it.
“I recently discovered that my husband had a 26-year-old son before our marriage. “He did not inform me that he had a child outside our union,’’ she said.